Summer is here and I really want to soak up the last summer of not being responsible for a little person. As soon as next summer comes around it’s not just me that I will have to think about, it will be me and my […]
10 years ago I was finishing school. My mental health was in a terrible state and I was a lost soul. When I think back to 16 year old me I remember having a lot going through my head. I had no friends, screwed most of my GCSE’s up and had no idea what direction my life was going in. I went through 2 years of turmoil before I met Stewart, who, undeniably helped turn my life around due to him loving me unconditionally and understanding me completely.
10 Achievements In 10 Years
I moved out.
Moving out was a big deal for me and it changed me for the better. Whilst i’m still not as independent as I’d like to be ultimately it made my brain that little more independent. It’s easy when living at home to get lost in the opinions of others around you whether or not it’s parents or siblings. When you move out you’re solely on your own, Stewart worked full time and so I spent most of my weeks on my own, with my own thoughts and own decisions.
I went back to college.
Since school I’d struggled to get back into any kind of education for years, I tried college and little community college things but nothing really worked for me. It took me until I was 20-21 to finally be in a mental space where I could be at college and be ready to knuckle down and study.
I earned myself a national diploma in Photography.
It certainly wasn’t an easy journey but I’d finally done it, maybe a few years later than most people my age but regardless, I achieved something and went on to achieve other academic milestones too.
I earned a HND (higher national diploma) in Photography
I became the first person in my family to get a Degree!
I’ve kept pets alive.
A massive achievement in itself, wouldn’t you say? Oldest is going on 9 years.
I bit the bullet and got Antidepressants.
This was a big step for me. For years I didn’t go to the doctors in fear that they wouldn’t believe me when I would explain how I was feeling but they did, and they were great and all my worrying was for nothing.
I stopped taking shit from people.
I’ve dealt with so many jealous, insecure and really not very nice people over the years and still today. It’s important we don’t take someone elses problems onto our shoulders and that we do not take our bad moods and feelings out on the people that don’t deserve it. Ultimately people won’t agree with most of the ways I look at things and will give excuses after excuses on behalf of themselves and others but the reality of it is, it’s really not that hard to respect someone regardless of how you feel. By all means, listen to people and be there for people when they need you but under no circumstances be made to feel like shit just because someone else is feeling that way. Treat others how you want to be treated.
I became happy and content with my life.
It’s taken a long, long while to finally be in a place where I am happy with where my life is. I have a fab husband who supports everything I want to do with my life, understands my weird phobia’s that nobody else knows about and supports me no matter what. I am totally OK with having a degree and not doing anything that people would have expected me to do with it. My life is heading in another direction and ultimately I’ve really stopped giving a shit about what other people think and I absolutely love blogging and creating content online. Photography is still my passion and the end of my photography days are certainly not over and you’ll be seeing a lot more of it here on my blog <3
I got married; or at least committed myself to someone.
If you’ve read my post ‘‘we got married, just not by law” you’ll understand what I mean by this point but if you haven’t, then please go read that post so I don’t have to explain it all again.
obviously these are in no particular order. An achievement is an achievement and I am proud of myself for achieving all of the above and I look forwards to being able to share in 10 years time another 10 achievements with you all. What’s your best achievement in 10 years? If I had to choose one I would definitely say it would be becoming and choosing to be happy. Comment yours below;
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Last year we finally made the decision to hold a commitment ceremony and have our ”wedding’. Unfortunately due to lack of funds we’re having to postpone.
When we first made the decision to set a date and place we thought we were gonna be in a position where money would be a lot easier to save, however we weren’t expecting Odin to deteriorate so quickly and Tod to become so poorly last month.
If i’m honest, it was quite an easy decision to make to hold off because nobody really brought it up in conversation and it was almost like nobody was really that interested in where we were in terms of planning or whatever else, nobody ever asked. Not that this bothered us though so if you’re a family or friend reading this now and thinking ”Crap I didn’t ask how it was going, is this aimed at me?!” NOPE. it’s not aimed at anyone and honestly, the fact nobody seemed interested made it a hell of a lot easier to make the decision to postpone and we felt less guilt.
So, Thank you for not asking us about it, it’s really helped us make what could have been a really hard decision.
Stewart and myself feel like we need to seriously get back onto our feet financially before we think about planning a wedding because let’s face it it’s not cheap and when you’ve got little to no money spare each month it’s not easy to be forking out hundreds of pounds on caterers and whatever else.
So, we’re back to the drawing board but don’t worry I will be sure to keep you all updated with the ins and outs of what’s happening along this very strange journey.
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Howdy! Happy Sunday everyone.
The weeks are flying by so fast, it’s hard to believe we are almost at the end of February already.
We’ve been blessed with some glorious weather this week here in the UK, even more glorious for February. This week has been relatively busy for me, Tuesday I took Birdie for a play date at my mums in Gainsborough. I’m still undecided on whether or not she enjoyed it, it was a lot for her to take in though. Mum has 4 birds herself, 2 of which are Conures too, like Birdie. After a while, she settled in a little bit and soon started digging into some chilli pepper and apple.
I’ve also been doing a lot of work this week in regards to planning future content for this blog, my photography blog and a book that I am currently working on that I’m hoping to publish to the Amazon market later in the year. (It’s photography based so it might, or might not be up your street, but it sure will be pretty to look at!)
Thursday was a pretty chilled day, we had a very quick walk around some location near Scampton. I made friends with a horse and spent a good 15 minutes giving constant loves to him/her. Stewart wasn’t too keen on the horse and swears blind that it smelt his fear and went to bite him. I can confirm because I was there and I saw it that the horse did not go to bite him. After this short walk, We went t pound stretcher, bought a fair amount of cleaning products, I cleaned the windows and Stewart FINALLY started cleaning the garage and the front of the house. I’ve only been asking since the end of November 2018.
Friday, We’d planned to do something with my mum, nan, grandad, sister and little brother.
Family days out are my favourite. Mum, just like me is always looking for a family day out and we are sure to put our heads together with my nan to work something out. Sometimes sitting in someone’s house gets a bit tiresome and it’s nice to go out with your family somewhere to catch up.
We went to Creswell Crags, somewhere we’ve not been to for well over 8 years just for a walk and explore of the beautiful nature and history of the place, the sun was beaming and it was just bloody glorious. I got tons of infrared photographs and if you wanna keep up to date with them then you can see them on my photography blog;
Prior to going out with the fam, Stewart and I took the dogs for a walk around a local park, we wanted to make the most of the sunshine and didn’t have to set off to meet mum for a couple of hours. It was a really pleasant walk and the dogs absolutely loved it. They even made friends with 2 other dogs in the park which was adorable. Safe to say when they got home they were shattered.
Photographs from the week