Every single one of us experiences pain and speaking from a mental health perspective I’m going to talk you through how you can turn that pain into possibilities and seriously beat your mental health’s ass. Pain comes in two forms; physical and emotional. In this…
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Self development or personal development is all about constantly growing and flowering as a person. The timeline of personal development is life long and not something that you can achieve over night. It takes willpower and a lot of learning about ones self and others…
This post is coming from a really personal perspective. I woke up this morning thinking of old memories and usually, they’d make me smile looking back but this time I’m just disappointed and sad.
Family Memories and The Blues
I’m scrolling through Instagram and I see a picture from Coniston Old Man in Cumbria and all of a sudden the memories from our family holiday there came flooding back to my mind. It was the first ever mountain I climbed and honestly, times seemed a lot happier back then. There were no family feuds and mental health wasn’t such a massive cloud of doom hanging over our heads. Since this trip, many many years ago now a lot has changed. Some don’t speak and many have worsened in mental health since, me being one of them.
Focusing on the negative’s of memories isn’t going to help negative emotions, however, if you’re a sufferer of mental health you’ll know that it’s really not easy to control what your mind wants you to think about or feel.
Family trips are no longer like they used to be. The older children are all grown up and getting even harder to pin down due to work commitments, relationships or friendships. Whilst all of the elements are important I can’t stress enough how important it is to spend time with family unless of course, that family gives you negative vibes. (avoid them at all costs!)
Before we go any further with this post, ask yourself these questions;
- Are you happy with the relationship you have with your family?
- Could there be relationships that require a lot more of your attention and time?
- Would you be happy with the way things were if something were to happen? (If you were to lose contact or a family member, would you be happy with the way it was left?)
I don’t need to preach to you about how short life is because chances are you already know and that you’ve lost someone close to you, that you weren’t expecting to lose so soon.
I love my family with all my heart, admittedly, as there are in every family there are the problematic members, (some would probably say that would be me because I speak my mind and if somethings bothering me, then you’re gonna know about it whether you like it or not and it’s obvious that people don’t like that.) Some may not be putting in as much effort as others, some might be developing stronger relationships within the family causing jealousy, it allll happens.
It’s completely normal to feel sad, bitter and angry instead of happy when you look back at memories, but ultimately we really need to think about it and just be thankful that those memories happened regardless of whether something similar is happening today and if you ask me, I think that it is completely possible to get back to those places, providing other people want to get back to those places too.
If they’re bad memories that are completely impossible to think happy thoughts about, think about how that particular memory/memories have helped carve your life into the beautiful thing it is today.
Ultimately, life is a gift and unfortunately, a lot of us take it for granted or unfortunately it’s the most precious gift that gets taken from us in the most horrific ways.
It doesn’t take a genius to know you’re not the only one in the world with problems, correct? It also doesn’t take a genius to understand that it can be extremely difficult to listen to other people’s problems and woes when you’re potentially feeling equally as bad right? But the thing is, the moment someone doesn’t want to listen to your problems, well you know how it feels. So how do we make sure nobody has that feeling? How can we support someone as best we can when we’re feeling low and they are too?
Sometimes speaking to someone who is also going through a troubled time and sharing your experiences and feelings with them can act as a healing process not just for them but for the both of you. Just knowing you’re not alone can be a help.
We, as mental health sufferers know how important it is to have someone just listen, if you’re really not one for chatting in general, lending an ear to someone can really make all the difference. How you support a person also depends on your relationship with that person. Are you friends? Family? Maybe you don’t know this person from adam. It doesn’t matter because there’s always ways to support people, no matter the relationship.
For me I love speaking to people and helping them through their issues. Someone on my Twitter said that their personal feelings get pushed to the back of their mind and the person they’re talking to’s problems come to the forefront instead and I’ve never related to something more. When you’re dealing with someone else’s problems it enables you to not only help others but also help you because in turn you’ll probably see that you’re offered words and advice that can help you too.
Ultimately, humans do not communicate with each other enough, if you’re struggling speak to someone. Anyone. My inboxes across all social media’s are always open to anyone who may need it.
Imagine the heart wrenching moment you’re told you have to go a whole day or two without WiFi. How nauseous you suddenly feel due to the fear speeding through your veins. You’re plagued by the single question, What am I going to do without the…
It’s certainly not easy having anxiety in general, let alone being a photographer with anxiety and having it affect your work. As a photographer, it’s crucial that you’re able to communicate with people – clients in order to get work. Does anybody actually want a photographer that doesn’t communicate with you? ( I mean, personally, I’d love to have a photographer than runs around me and my family events not speaking to us!)
If you, like me, are a photographer with anxiety it would do you good to remember that;
your clients are probably just as nervous as you, if not more nervous.
You’re awesome at what you do, so own it.
easier said than done, I know.
I have now come to the conclusion that it’s at a point in my life where my anxiety is the most controlled it has ever been in my whole life, although can be extremely unpredictable and for that very reason I find myself not being able to commit to allowing myself to work with potential clients in fear that I might not be able to actually go through with the job in the end.
It’s a very large inconvenience and I find it disheartening when something you can’t control gets in the way of your work.
On the other hand, having Photography as a skill doesn’t mean your career chances end if you can’t work with people. There are a couple of different paths you can venture down;
Freelance Fine Artist
Stock Image Creator
-just to name a few.
I’ll never give up hoping that one day I’ll be confident enough to work with people, however, as it stands at the moment it’s not a worry that is at the top of my shnit’s given list and you need to remember that you don’t need to be able to work for someone or take on your own clients to be a successful photographer and don’t let anyone tell you otherwise.
We all go through life with people taking a dislike to us, whether it’s strangers, friends or even family; sometimes for no reason at all. This will always be one of life’s mysteries but usually stems from jealousy in most cases unless you’ve done something…